Hearing a girl you are dating say that she’s bisexual can be exciting at first, because you’re most likely trying to sleep with her or your head’s getting filled up with all your wildest fantasies of a threesome. But, what if she’s your girlfriend who you love and can’t comprehend losing? The revelation may seem a bit worrisome at first, but it’s not as bad as you think.
In this article, I’m going to be sharing some important tips that should help you rid of your worries on whether she might cheat, as well as some red flags you should watch out for when dating a bisexual girl.
So to begin, Should you be worried if your girlfriend is bisexual?
You should not worry because of your girlfriend’s bisexuality. Don’t make the assumption that because she’s bisexual she’s going to have a sexual attraction for everyone. Just like how straight people aren’t attracted to all women, and how straight people aren’t going to cheat on their girlfriends, because they think another girl is pretty.
Should You Be Worried If Your Girlfriend Is a Bisexual ?
You shouldn’t worry about dating a bisexual girl. Just make sure that she’s into guys a bit more than she is in girls, because it can cause some major issues to the relationship in the long term. But overall, the chances of your bisexual girlfriend cheating on you are no more or no less than having a straight girlfriend.
It’s understandable, why you might overthink things about about a bisexual girlfriend, one reason is that, it’s a new experience and you don’t exactly know the differences a bisexual girl has with a straight girl.
Below I am going to clear up some misconceptions, when it comes to dating a bisexual girl. Here are 3 things you should definitely know about dating a bisexual women.
1) Just because a bisexual girl is dating you, it doesn’t mean she isn’t bisexual anymore:
The thing is that, although they may not be intrested in other people, they will still have the potential to be attracted to other people. So it’s basically like a straight relationship.
Just because a women is dating you, it doesn’t mean that she’s suddenly going to be unattracted to all other men.
2) Her sexual orientation won’t affect the relationship.
Her sexual orientation isn’t really going to matter when you are in a relationship. Therefore it doesn’t mean that you’ll never be enough for her.
3) Bisexuals can be monogomous
If she’s bisexual she can still be in a very monogomous relationship. Just like everyone else, it doesn’t matter if she’s lesbian or bisexual, it wont mean that she’s greedy, confused or that she wants everything at once.
4) Don’t let people make you feel bad about dating someone bisexual
There’s going to be some people that are going to talk down on you, just because you have a bisexual girlfriend. In this situation it all depends on your will power and mindset.
A quick mindset tweak: Think about how she chose you out of a much larger sexual circle. So consider how unique and awesome you must be in her eyes that she chose you out of both men and women.
Here are some facts about bi-sexual women.
An estimated 3.5% of adults in the United States identify as lesbian, gay, and bisexual. That’s roughly around 11.5 million of the American population. But obviously, that is just a little scratch on the surface. There are many more individuals belonging to the LGBT community that haven’t revealed their sexual preferences.
Did you know that women are substantially more likely than men to identify as bisexual? Bisexuals comprise more than half of the lesbian population.
And most women who identify as bisexuals are dating men. 88% of all bisexuals are in a relationship with the opposite sex.
So you might ask yourself why do they call themselves bisexuals if they are just dating men?
The reason behind why 88% of bisexual women date men is because:
- Women have a way bigger dating pool with men.
- There are way more straight men than lesbian women.
- Men are more likely to ask women out.
- A lot of lesbian women refuse to date bisexual women.
What To Do If Your Girlfriend Is Bisexual?
Dont assume, that just because she’s dating you, she’s going to lose her bisexuality. Your girlfriend is still bisexual if she’s dating you. It’s just like how you would use your phone, you’re not going to completely stop watching TV.
“Bisexuality isn’t something that you just turn off. Accept her for who she is.” Respect her and treat her well.
In this part we have to tackle a few more issues. Number one was accepting that your girlfriend is bisexual. Second part is, what you can do to get over you fears and insecurities that your girlfriend is bisexual.
Your most likely on this article because your facing some insecurites regarding your relationship with your bisexual girlfriend. Before I get started on what to do. I recommend you to scroll down a bit to learn more about why insecurites can truly hurt your relationship.
Here’s what to do, if your insecure about your girlfriend being a bisexual
Dating a bisexual women really depends on what each of you are looking for, if your looking for total commitment, then you may not want to date a bisexual women. If you love this women just make sure she mainly needs a men. But if you truly trust her and she’s an honest women, you dont need to worry about anything.
It doesn’t matter with who you are in the relationship with, it is very important that you communicate your standards, needs and expectations you have in the relationship.
When dating a bisexual women, I would advice you to date at your own risk, and make sure you know what type of person she is. If she ticks all these points down below then you have nothing to worry about.
- She seems loyal and trustworthy
- Your gut feeling tells you that you can trust her
- She favours guys a bit more than girls.
The third point may come to you as a surprise. But it’s better relief for you to make sure she mainly likes guys.
At some point you got to ask her. “Is this going to be a problem in the future, do you like guys more or girls?” If she gives you an answer where she says; she likes girls more, such as 60/40, or 50/50 for guys and girls, then that could be a problem.
What keeps straight women so desirably attracted to men is their uncontontrollable lust for a mans body, a mans rough voice and so on.
If shes more adement towards being with a women it’s better to part ways with her if your the insecure type about your girlfriend cheating on you.
Insecure Of Being In a Relationship With Your Bisexual Girlfriend? Here’s what you shouldn’t do
It doesn’t matter if you are in a relationship with a straight women or a bisexual women, you have to prove to your girlfriend everyday, that your the best she could do.
Being jealous and insecure in the relationship leads to many negative behaviors which can push your girlfriend further away from you. Developing jealousy can cause you to become clingy and needy. Becoming insecure and jealous is the start of the end.
If your doing any of these things, then eventually your going to turn off your girlfriend:
- You are making her the center of your life: You hold on this mentality, that she’s your everything and you can’t live without her. You become more sensitive to who she talks to. A women wants to be adored, but she wants to also know that you have a plan for your life and also her life in the future.
- Having no value for yourself: Once you become dependent on her and what she’s doing? who she’s talking to? Where she is going and with who? She’s going to notice ofcourse. And she’s going to wonder and question if you are the alpha man she thought you were.
If a girl truly loves you, she’ll avoid doing anything that will hurt the relationship. So ask yourself this, is your girlfriend really head over heels in love with you?
When a girl is head over heels in love with you, she’s going to be calling you constantly, she’s going to be saying things like: “I miss you” “I love you” “I can’t wait to see you” “Hey I’m just calling to see how your day has been going”
Has she stopped saying these to you? Is there less intimacy and sex in the bedroom? These are all points of concern
“If she’s nuts about you = 100% commited and faithful to you”
So are you doing everything as her boyfriend to be her best option? In other words are you her knight and shining armor?
The most rediculous assumption that people have of bisexual women is that their long-term monogamous girlfriend is absolutely going to run off and have sex. This poor mindset stems from her sexuality in that she can be sexaully attracted to both men and women therefore she’s going to be sexually attracted to all men and women
assuming that her sexual orientation is going to be so overwhelming that it’s going to stip her of her personal self control is rediculous.
If you are worried that your bisexual girlfriend will leave you for a girl:
If you are all about having a monogomous relationship, you should discuss your standards with her. Because sometimes couples get into relationships not knowing what it is. Some persume it’s an open relationship and after months later, one partner finds out that their partner was being disloyal in the relationship.
But If she’s monogamous, which I assume she is since she got into a monogamous relationship. It would be like having a straight girlfriend.
Even though she likes both men and women, she chose you to be with her. Can’t a straight girl be attracted to other guys? “yes she can, but she can also choose to be with one.
Listen, you love this girl. That’t why you are in a relationship with her. So why should things be any different, if her sexuality is something else?
To have be in a happy relationship with your girlfriend make sure you respect her sexuality, treat her well, and please dont assume she will be unfaithful or that you wont be enough for her, just because she’s bi.